sorry for clogging up everyone’s blogs with this post

jpadjackles:

boykingsqueen:

This weekend was amazing. I met new friends, had even more incredible experiences with Jared and got my favorite photo op in the world. Unfortunately, the very last thing I experienced leaves me heartbroken. While waiting for some friends to get their Jared auto (and having a clear view of him which was great to start), I watched someone tell what must have been a very personal story. Jared came around the table and hugged the crying girl for a long while, got down to her level and spent longer than he needed to speaking with her. I am not sure what she said, and I’m sure it meant a great deal to her, but Jared was not prepared for it. He immediately after went out through the doors behind his table, his handler said he need a breather, and came back a little shakier with red eyes. Make your own assumptions or don’t, that’s not what this is about.

This is about treating these people who you don’t /actually/ know, as close very personal friends. Yes, we are all the SPN family. But family is supposed to have /each other’s backs/. Not just one side. Please please do not just dump your stories on Jared or Jensen. Everyone has stories that would mean a great deal to them if they were able to tell J2, I’m sure. But these conventions are neither the time nor the place. To truly be a family, in my opinion, you have to listen and respect one another. Which not only means others fans, but the actors so many claim to love. Listen to what they are telling you. The stricter rules apparently set forth by Creation?? We’re not just implanted for no reason, they were not last minute decisions, something that came about for no reason. They are because the actors are having a more and more difficult time during these conventions, because some fans just won’t listen. I wish I could say this weekend ended on a high note for me, that I was left with nothing but joy and content. I really do. But I’m not. And I’m not upset for me, I still have all the wonderful and happy memories from this weekend. I’m upset for Jared. Because I was about to start crying seeing what he had to go through, just seeing the look on his face, how he started to go through the remaining autographs a little quicker. It made me feel disappointed. A little disgusted. Please respect the other part to this so called family. Please. I only witnessed what happened, and I feel so much like shit that I can’t even begin to imagine what these actors must go through, hundreds of times over.

I apologize for this getting rather long, I just needed to share my thoughts.

This is so important! While getting to talk to the guys is great and telling them how they’ve helped you is amazing, it shouldn’t go over that. You shouldn’t tell them your life story, not in a line with dozens of fans behind you waiting to get their autograph too. That’s not the time nor the place.

We often forget that these guys are human too, and we often overlook what mental state they’re in. Why? Because they don’t bring it up. They don’t tell us “oh man I’m feeling a little depressed today” or “hey, I’m feeling awesome and happy!” We don’t know, and that’s not something they have to tell us.

Jared and Jensen are very often doing autographs until close to midnight, maybe even later. That’s why they took away individual autographs passed Gold and Silver patrons because autographs take for-fucking-ever. And it’s because people hold up the lines with personal and long winded stories. And Jared and Jensen aren’t the kind of people to tell them to stop or to tell them they’re uncomfortable.

Creation set the rule in place of no personal stories for a reason. The actors have asked creation to request that no one tell personal stories for a reason. It is on the website, right in the section where you buy autograph tickets. While it’s not really enforced, it’s still a rule and it should still be followed to respect not only Creation, not only the actors but the fans waiting to meet them.

When you tell a personal story and an actor has to take a break to collect themselves, you’ve held up the line. You’ve left a number of fans waiting. Some of those fans have to catch flights. Some of them have to drive home. Some of them have places they need to be.

So please be considerate of everyone around you: the handlers, the creators of the con, the trained professionals who are there to give you guidance after —because they know how overwhelming it is to meet your hero. Be considerate of the actors who may not be in a good mental headspace to listen to your story and be considerate to those waiting in line behind you, because you never know if your story is the reason that actor can’t come back and finish autographs. You never know if your story is the reason creation stops autographs altogether, or even worse, cons altogether. You never know.

If you really want them to know your story, write them a letter. Bring it with you to the con and give it to them. Tell them that that letter is a story of how they’ve helped you or how they’ve changed your life. Post a story on their Facebook page telling them why you love them and what they mean to you. Tweet them. Instagram them. Let them read these things on their own time. But please, don’t tell them at autographs. (or at a photo op, or during a q&a panel.)